Confidentiality helps create trust in disciple-making, but it should never be promised as absolute secrecy. A wise disciple-maker protects private information while clearly explaining situations in which safety, abuse, danger, or serious misconduct may require outside help.
State the Expectation Early
Explain that personal information will normally remain private.
Do Not Use Stories Casually
A disciple’s struggles should not become sermon illustrations or conversation material.
Article 191: Share Only What Is Necessary
When seeking counsel, protect identity where possible.
Explain Safety Exceptions
Threats, abuse, exploitation, danger to self or others, or safeguarding concerns may require escalation.
Follow Church Policies
Local congregations may have reporting and safeguarding procedures.
Respect Legal Differences
Reporting duties vary by location and circumstance.
Ask Permission When Possible
When outside help is needed, involve the disciple transparently unless doing so would create greater risk.
Store Written Information Carefully
Notes and messages may contain sensitive material.
Never Use Confidentiality to Protect Wrongdoing
Secrecy should not shield abuse or serious misconduct.
Explain Confidentiality in Plain Language
Use a simple sentence such as: “I will protect what you share, but if someone is in danger or there is abuse or serious harm, I may need to involve appropriate help.” Clear expectations protect trust.
Trust Requires Both Privacy and Responsibility
Healthy confidentiality protects dignity while recognizing that love sometimes requires involving appropriate pastors, professionals, or civil authorities.